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Another meeting with a mediator. In an unpublicized process, Steph and I are still separating. The mediator comments on our ability to communicate at such a high level. "Can you enlighten me as to how you've managed that?

"We've done it for our children," I said. In truth, it has been my life's work. To turn what could so tragically become a lose-lose-lose situation into something positive. There is no divorce in my family. Mennonites stay together until death does them part. I was taught to turn the other cheek, to do unto others as I would have them do to me. I just did my best. Tried to be fair. Tried to be good. I had no idea what the fuck I was doing.

I still don't. But things seem to turn out better if I don't try to control them. I ran into Julia on a deserted stretch of beach on the Juan de Fuca Strait. And take Andy, my Sir Prize. He's in my life. We're gonna get hitched. The boys said yes, too.